I have been getting into a rut lately with my husband. We're both working again after a long, luxurious summer of open days and plenty of free time. The kids are both in school and the weekdays are tightly scheduled, with hectic mornings and busy evenings. We are not having enough time to just talk and be with each other. We are often tired and cranky. He finds a lot to criticize in me and then I get defensive and snap back.
I found myself thinking this morning, "I wish he loved and accepted me the way I now love and accept myself." In the very next thought, it came to me--a voice in my head--perhaps my own inner wisdom, said, "You need to love him and accept HIM as much as you now love and accept yourself yourself and then he will, in turn, be kinder, sweeter, and more helpful." Wow! I tried it out right away and asked him to make me some eggs for breakfast while I gave our daughter a cuddle as she was waking up. I talked to him in an easy, friendly way--all the usual resentment and judgement had fallen away. Instantly, his energy shifted and suddenly we were in a different place than we have been for many days now. May this lesson stick!
I found myself thinking this morning, "I wish he loved and accepted me the way I now love and accept myself." In the very next thought, it came to me--a voice in my head--perhaps my own inner wisdom, said, "You need to love him and accept HIM as much as you now love and accept yourself yourself and then he will, in turn, be kinder, sweeter, and more helpful." Wow! I tried it out right away and asked him to make me some eggs for breakfast while I gave our daughter a cuddle as she was waking up. I talked to him in an easy, friendly way--all the usual resentment and judgement had fallen away. Instantly, his energy shifted and suddenly we were in a different place than we have been for many days now. May this lesson stick!
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